Support each other. Be there through the joy, good, happy, sad, and bad times—no matter
what. Be willing to provide hugs, kisses, and emotional comfort in all circumstances. If your partner resists
your attempts to comfort them and declines to talk about it, you should ease
off of the subject and wait until they seem to be in a better mood before
returning to it. Feel like you can count on each other; be reliable and loyal,
and be emotionally available when you need each other most.
Be honest with each other. A truly emotionally intimate relationship
requires open and honest communication. Way of keeping secrets from your
partner creates a barrier between you that limits your mutual emotional trust. Honesty can be scary, but if you want your relationship to thrive, then you
both need to become comfortable discussing your feelings, insecurities, and
frustrations.
Spend time together. Stay together as a couple is very important. Spend time talking with
each other and going out on dates, and doing other relationship-building
activities. Really get to know each other and build a connection between you
that's strong and enduring.
Trust on all levels is Important. Try hard to understand and respect your
differences. Share and clarify your differing perspectives, and try to
empathize with each others point of view. Pressuring your partner to do
something that they really don't want to do, or neglecting or abusing them
(whether emotionally, verbally, physically, or sexually) undermines your
ability to trust and rely on one another. You must keep your word and follow
through to the fullest. You must realize that fulfilling simple, basic
commitments and expectations every day lays the foundation of trust that
extends to more challenging situations. You should be able to trust each other
in everything, keeping private your partner's innermost secrets, fears, and struggles. When you say you'll do something it must be
done.
Spend time apart. Do your own things separately once in a while. Spend time with friends
and family, and by yourself pursuing hobbies and other things. Just ensure that
no other relationship or pursuit crowds out your partner from being your first
priority.
Be independent and keep your sense of self,
never losing yourself or your voice in the relationship.
Settle disputes peacefully. Pardon, Apologize, Care, and make up with each other. Talk through disagreements as long or as
many times as it takes until the issue is resolved and both of you feel comfortable
moving forward.
If you threaten to break up with each other
after every fight or argument, you will never really resolve anything.
Keep most things private between you. When your partner shares with you and confides in you (emotionally and
physically),especially when they share something about another person; resist
the urge to disclose sensitive details to anyone without permission. A
relationship is between two people—you and your spouse, not anyone else. Don't
involve others in intimate matters, however close you may feel to them.
Make maintain
your relationship. Work on it. Work hard at keeping it
positive, happy, healthy, and the very best it can be. Do what you
can do to improve your relationship or make it healthier.
